“Love and logic” is how Amanda Campbell defines her parenting style. As I sit down with her over coffee to discuss her burgeoning business, her experiences as a mother, and how she is really an introvert, it becomes apparent that she exudes this philosophy in all areas of her life.
After years of working in public mental health, Amanda opened the doors to her very own practice as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in May of 2015. Amanda has that calm but knowing demeanor you would really want in a therapist. Something about her just makes you want to talk, which is probably why I can’t help share all the quirks of my husband’s I would like her to help me fix. Every therapist loves getting hit up for free advice, right?
Amanda specializes working with moms, couples, and adults and older adolescents with anxiety. She likes to refer herself as the therapist for “worry warts and distant couples”. Amanda enjoys the freedom of being her own boss and choosing her own clients but admits that being her boss has come with a huge learning curve. In addition to the mental health component of her job, she has had to learn how to do advertising, marketing, social media, and client procurement. “Basically, everything outside of the actual therapy has been my biggest challenge,” she said. But Amanda isn’t looking back, only forward. She stays current in her field, has started a clinical consultation group, and serves as the resident expert for theCityMoms of Greater Indianapolis.
When she isn’t fixing marriages and calming people’s worries, she is busy raising her two sons: Trajan, 7; and Parker, 4. Her husband, Ryan, is also an entrepreneur. He left a career in the healthcare industry to become a mobile personal trainer. Amanda said her family is certainly learning to sync their calendars and embracing the flexibility of two entrepreneurial parents. As a mother Amanda tries to be fair and loving at the same time. She explained that her parenting style has evolved over time, and she has learned to be more empathetic and less authoritarian. She believes that it’s important to give her children a voice. It is in moments like these where it is apparent why she is such a successful therapist.
As a family the Campbells enjoy doing crafty things, dumping all of the Legos out on the floor and having a family build, and going to the IMA and library. On her own, Amanda enjoys reading and cooking. She has been a theCityMom since January 2016 and stays active with play dates and the Mompreneur meetings. Amanda originally joined to make friends for herself and to socialize her younger son Parker. She appreciates that the group allows “other moms to put themselves out there.” She would love to see more daytime events downtown.
And yes, even though she talks to people for a living, Amanda is a self-described introvert. It’s not that she doesn’t enjoy people, but rather she is not always comfortable in social settings. She has learned to hide it well and opening a private practice has given her a huge boost of confidence and the drive to just “plunge into it”. Thank goodness, because I have some more questions to ask her…
And now, what you are dying to know…
What five items would you bring to a desert island?
2. Bag o books
4. One of those knives that has all the other gadgets. Swiss army knife?
What are you reading right now?
1. The Fiery Trial: Abraham Lincoln and American Slavery by Eric Foner
2. The Dive From Clausen's Pier by Ann Packer
What’s the weirdest thing in your purse?
I always carry a lot of napkins. I have some fruit strips and crayon packs in Altoid tins.
What is your best recent mom memory?
My son Trajan wanted to take his blanket outside. I of course didn’t want him to. He asked me, “Mom, what are you really worried about?” We talked it through, and the therapist in me was so proud of him. I loved being able to reason with him.
What is your guilty pleasure?
I play Candy Crush. It’s a nice distraction :)
Be sure to check out Amanda's Website www.busymomslifecoach.com
And stay tuned next month to see who Amanda thinks should be the September Mom of the Month!
Two and a half years ago, Sarah Carter took a leap of faith, and it turned out to be the best decision she ever made. Back then, a mother of one and a full-time speech pathologist, Sarah was feeling the strains of balancing a full-time career and full-time motherhood, so she decided to make a change and become her own boss.
Fast forward to the present day, and Sarah is now the mother of two lively boys, soon to be five year old Carson and soon to be one year old Barrett. (Fun fact: her sons share a birthday!) She is also a successful consultant with Rodan and Fields, which allows her the flexibility to work from home and enjoy these precious years with her family. Sarah really loves being a mother, but she shared, “I need something aside from just being a Mom.” Full time work, however, didn’t seem like the best option for her family. Despite her husband Daren’s concerns and despite her own hesitation about “drinking the direct sales kool aid”, Sarah committed to a career with Rodan and Fields and hasn’t looked back since. She finds that the company is incredibly supportive of mothers looking to add additional family income and is a true believer in the products. And P.S. her skin looks amazing!
Sarah also became involved with theCityMoms about two and a half years ago. She was looking for an inclusive moms group after encountering some rather exclusive ones in the area. With two young and lively boys, Sarah appreciates the fact that theCityMoms helps her stay active and involved with her children. She also participates in the Mompreneur group and enjoys networking with other entrepreneurs and professional women.
Direct sales can be a tough business in which to succeed, but Sarah says consistency, follow-up, and discipline have been the keys to her success. Dedicating and truly working about 5-6 hours a week has allowed her to replace her full time salary. She cautions, however, that direct sales is not a get rich quick scheme but rather a five year plan that requires not only dedication but also thick skin. Sarah acknowledges that a stigma exists surrounding direct sales, but she says you just can’t worry about what other people think. Sarah is confident because she knows she is doing what’s right for her family.
When she has a rare moment of down time, Sarah enjoys pursuing her passion of photography. She also still does consulting work as a Speech Pathologist. The family enjoys staying active and outdoors and loves going to the zoo and The Children’s Museum. Sarah looks forward to staying involved with theCityMoms and would love to see a big carnival or black tie event in the future.
And now, for the important stuff:
What five items would you bring to a desert island?
Sunscreen (clearly, she’s a skincare enthusiast!)
Kids and husband
Dixie, our Border Collie; we also have a chihuahua, who might have to stay at home ;)
What are you reading right now?
Twenty Days to the Top by Brian Sullivan
What is the weirdest thing in your purse?
Speech therapy materials, Epipen, a checkbook, a charging purse from R+F...I’m actually surprised because there is usually something a lot more random
What is your best recent mom memory?
My older son has some behavioral challenges, but recently he just had a breakthrough day. He doesn’t like to get his head wet, but he took a shower and went underwater for his swim lesson, and he even pooped on the potty, which was a huge fear of his. It just made me want to cry!
What is your guilty pleasure?
Diet coke with splenda and wine, definitely wine.
Sarah juggles her own business and raising two boys with grace and style, and she is super friendly to boot. If you haven’t met her yet, you should! And if you are interested in learning more about her business, feel free to connect with her on Facebook.
Stay tuned to see who Sarah nominated as the next Mom of the Month!
Laura Centeno-Diaz is a CityMom O.G. She has been with the group since the beginning, attending the very first event at the greening of the canal downtown, where she met the group’s founder Jeanine Bobenmoyer. Laura was new to the area, a recent transplant from Iowa, and was eager to meet other moms. Fast forward three years later and Laura is an active member, a former playgroup coordinator, and a working momma who says that theCityMoms has been “fantastic” to meet lots of moms from different walks of life.
Laura spends most of her time balancing a career in higher education and enjoying her almost six-year-old daughter, Amelia. Laura and her husband Mike don’t have family nearby, so the support network she has built within theCityMoms has been invaluable for Laura. She really enjoys the cultural and family-focused activities the group offers.
During the day, you can find Laura serving as an Academic Advisor to students at IUPUI. Her background is in instructional design and education, and she has nearly a decade of experience in student affairs. She also teaches two first year seminars which focus on a variety of topics, including service learning. Laura has never known anything other than being a working mother and embraces the challenges and advantages it brings. She was raised in Puerto Rico by a working single mother of four children. She appreciates the example her mother set for her and wishes to demonstrate the same for her own daughter. Laura loves working and the identity and sense of accomplishment it gives her.
When she isn’t working, Laura’s favorite place to be is in the kitchen with her daughter. She loves eating, cooking, and supporting local restaurants. She was also determined to raise an adventurous eater, and so far has been very successful on this front. Laura dreamed of being a chef and owning her own restaurant. She jokes, “I am classically trained by the Food Network and the Cooking Channel.” Her latest adventure involved picking strawberries with her daughter and then figuring out what to do with their harvest. They have been enjoying homemade strawberry shortcake, strawberry popsicles, and strawberry ice cream. They might be strawberry-ed out for the time being.
Given her level of devotion to her family and the joy on her face when she talks about her daughter, you would probably never guess that Laura never planned to have children. She always enjoyed children but simply never imagined having one of her own. Life, however, sometimes takes us in different directions. She took three pregnancy tests and a blood test with her doctor before she believed the news. Now, Laura says she can’t imagine her life any other way.
What 5 items would you bring to a desert island?
A bag full of good books
An infinite amount of food
A box of cast iron pans for cooking
*This question, although silly, reveals so much about Laura’s personality: her love of food as well as her fundamentally pragmatic nature.
What is currently playing on your iTunes?
I am currently hooked on La Oreja de Van Gogh (Spanish band) and Jesse and Joy (band out of Mexico/Southern California). I have been listening nonstop for the last three weeks.
What are you currently reading?
Picture books for my daughter, haha. I am more of an Audio book gal and have been listening to Room and the latest book by Mindy Kaling.
What is a recent fond mom memory?
I have loved watching the improvement my daughter has shown with her reading. She reads to me now.
Any cringe-worthy moments lately?
Well, nobody heard or saw this, but I was in a public restroom with my daughter and she loudly asked me “Mommy, are you going poopy?”
What is your favorite guilty pleasure?
Binge watching Netflix. I am currently watching Velvet, it’s a Spanish show but has English subtitles. It’s very Mad Men-esque but focuses on high fashion.
Stay tuned next month to see which CityMom Laura thinks you ought to know!
It is hard to believe that this CityMom ever described herself as shy considering that she now serves as the voice for The Riley Children’s Foundation and performs regularly in local musical theater. Trisha Shepherd had her first solo performance as a munchkin kid in a local production of Wizard of Oz, and from that point forward she was “absolutely hooked”. She developed her voice and has been using it proudly ever since.
Mom to three busy children—Calvin, 13; Clara, 10; and Daisy May, 6—Trisha is always on the move. “My life is very busy. It’s nonstop, but I’m not complaining”. Trisha is used to being busy. Before serving in her current role at Riley, Trisha worked for many years as a news anchor. Although she was incredibly successful, Trisha struggled with the demands her career put on her family. She grew tired of missing evenings with her family and the rigidity of her schedule. So, she decided to make a change and leave her career. The transition was big and at times scary, but from it came exciting opportunities. Trisha published Know When To Run last Summer, which chronicles her struggle with and decision to leave her job as a news anchor.
Trisha is enjoying this new chapter in her life as a busy professional, but one who finally gets to spend lots of quality time with her children. Her son plays on a traveling baseball team, which can be quite demanding, and she is adjusting to life as a single parent. Trisha says she is learning to be humble and ask for help when she needs it and recognize that she doesn’t have to do everything.
Her job as the Lead Storyteller for the Riley Children’s Foundation is right up her alley. It is journalism at the core, according to Trisha, and she has “the best stories to tell.” Another great perk of her job is the flexibility that allows her to attend her son’s baseball games, freelance for Indy’s Child magazine, and to participate in her other love: musical theater. Trisha is currently rehearsing for the show Billy Elliot in which she plays Bill’s dead mother. The show will be performed at Marian University. Trisha tries to perform in at least one show a year, and now her daughters are getting involved, making it a family affair.
Trisha describes her personal mom style as laid back. She said, “I embrace going for it and doing what you love even when it’s challenging.” She is not afraid of a little mess and chaos. She recently threw her daughter’s birthday party on Mother’s Day, which is emblematic of her relaxed and whimsical parenting style. She said it was the only day where there weren’t a dozen other plans already, so she figured why not? She doesn’t like to overthink things.
Trisha has enjoyed her involvement with theCityMoms. She likes that the group can be “as much or as little as you want it to be.” She appreciates that she can meet such a variety of people and “network with supportive women”. She has especially enjoyed practicing her Spanish with certain members of the group and meeting people that she wouldn’t ordinarily cross paths with in her daily life.
What does the future hold for Trisha? She would like to publish another book. She will continue to tell the touching and emotional stories about the amazing work being done at Riley Hospital, and she will embrace the business of being a single mother to three busy children. She said, “Enjoy what you have even if it’s simple.”
And now for the important questions…
Q) What five items would you bring to a desert island?
2. Mini Mexican restaurant
3. Good wine
4. Her kids
5. A hammock
Q) What is currently playing on your ITunes right now?
The Billy Elliot soundtrack, in particular “The Letter”
Q) What are you currently reading?
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
Q) What is a fond recent mom memory?
Throwing a Mother’s day birthday party for my six year old daughter. It was the only free day ;) My 10 year old made me a bouquet of flowers from her last show. They were wilting and near death, but the gesture was so sweet.
Q) What has been a cringe-worthy moment lately?
Her son texted her saying he urgently needed a specific piece of masculine sports equipment. She rushed to bring it to him in the middle of a muddy field. She is sure he was mortified.
Q) What is your guilty pleasure?
“It’s awful, but watching “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette” with some friends and some wine.”
Stay tuned next month to see which CityMom Trisha thinks you should know!
Did you know that there are over 700 active members in theCityMoms? Impressive, right? We figured it was time to get to know one another. Sure, we meet each other at events or recognize names from social media, but we want to dig a little deeper. Each month we will highlight a member of theCityMoms community. Yes, it will take some time to introduce everyone, but it will be worth the wait!
Jeanine Bobenmoyer is many things, but STILL is definitely not one of them. It’s a very good thing that she doesn’t require much sleep because who has time for that with her schedule? You most likely know her as the Chief Mom Officer and Co-Founder of theCityMoms, but her resume goes on for days as does her indomitable spirit. Is it obvious that I am a huge fan of hers? Believe me, she is worthy.
In addition to co-founding theCityMoms four years ago, Jeanine acts as the Digital Editor for Indy’s Child magazine, is a contributing writer for Visit Hamilton County, serves as a board member for the Peewinkle Puppet Studios, and recently retired from her side gig at Anthropologie. And when she’s not busy doing all of that, she returns to her starring role as mom to Hunter, 8, and Emerson, 5; wife to advertising executive Brad; and new homeowner undertaking a massive renovation. Like I said, thank goodness she requires very little sleep.
When I first met Jeanine at a theCityMoms event shortly after I joined the group I was immediately struck by the fact that she introduced herself to me and already knew me by name. It was such a simple but meaningful gesture, and dispelled all of my fears about mom groups and how I would fit in. I am guessing that many of you had a similar experience. You see the common thread in all of Jeanine’s personal and professional endeavors is her natural gift of connecting to people and connecting people with one another. She personifies the phrase “people person”.
Jeanine began connecting people in high school when she and her friends founded clubs and got involved in community outreach. This passion continued during her time at the University of Michigan (Go Blue!) and carried over to her professional life as a marketer and advertiser. Jeanine told me, “I love bringing people together.” And she has done just that with the creation of theCityMoms.
TheCityMoms was born out of a need for a support group for women that was accessible, supportive, and not hyper specific to a certain type of mom. Jeanine firmly believes that “moms learn from each other” and was determined to create a group that could provide this support for Indianapolis moms. Four years later, I think it’s safe to say that she was successful. The group is home to over 700 active members and has become the premier events and support group for the Indy community. Jeanine is a self-described open person and makes herself vulnerable and available to the group. She is proud to have created a group where “Moms are able to support and love each other despite their differences.”
When it comes to her own parenting style, Jeanine is an adventurous mom. She says she is not particularly crafty or Pinterest-y, but she likes teaching her kids through experience. She was raised by a single mother who likely out of necessity taught Jeanine the value of adventure and finding experience in everyday life, such as “free smells” at the market. So, Jeanine is super mom by day, and at night when everyone else is sleeping, she gets to work.
Being the good sport that she is, Jeanine didn’t mind answering the five questions all of our “Moms of the Month” will be asked:
1. What five items would you bring to a desert island?
The entire Led Zeppelin repertoire; a lifetime supply of Starbucks Chai; my husband; my children; a vat of Northern Michigan wine
2. What song are you listening to on repeat?
“Thorn in My Pride” on Southern Album by The Black Crowes
3. What are you reading right now?
I just finished The Husband’s Secret by Liane Moriarty, and “Into Thin Air” by Jon Krakauer is on my nightstand
4. What is your biggest guilty pleasure?
I binge watch TV. Lately I have indulged in “Making a Murderer” and “Younger”
5. What is your fondest recent mom memory?
I found a video on my phone from Emerson. It was long, and I thought she wasn’t aware that it was in video mode until she looked at the camera and said ‘I love you, Mom. I love you, Dad’. I melted. She is my heart.
So when she isn’t making the rest of us with just one job look lazy, she can be found running the trails at Fort Ben or representing theCityMoms at the latest and greatest event in Indy, or maybe, on a rare quiet night, you can find her at home pouring over her stash of interior design books. In the future, Jeanine would love to see a chapter of theCityMoms in every city, but for now she is happy if she is able to impact just a few lives and make the journey of parenting just a little bit easier.
Tune in next month to see which theCityMoms member Jeanine thinks you should know…